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What is BREAST IRONING?

I wanna talk today about this subject as I find it really sad and violates the rights of the children (girls). That girl goes to a trauma, her self esteem is shaking badly.

BREAST IRONING – It’s a traditional practice whereby the breasts of a girl are flattered with tools like heated objects( spatulas, stones, hammers) to try to make them stop developing or disappear.

Usually happens in the villages, and it’s mostly done by the female members of the family, by an auntie, grandmother, eldest sister.

Some women whose breasts were ”ironed” have said they had trouble producing milk and breastfeeding their children.

Mothers in Cameroon thinks that by this practice girls will look less sexually attractive to men and keeping them in school for longer. (global citizen.org)

According to UNICEF, 38% of the children in Cameroon are married before they turn 18th. and 20% of them drop out of school after getting pregnant.

The practice is more common is West and Central Africa, yet has no borders, it occurs all over the world and has migrated with people and culture in the UK.

I can only imagine what is in their mind, what emotions they have, sure there is fear, pain, trauma, sadness, and so on.

It’s thought that about 1000 girls across the UK have been subjected to the practice. BREAST IRONING is child abuse!

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#encouragement, #love, Compassion for the ones around us

How does childhood trauma affect adulthood

About this subject I can talk, write a lot. I can relate to it. My parents used to neglect us sometimes, neglecting is a trauma. But shall we let the trauma affect our lives? I did not, I understood my parents actions.

When you are a child, the parents are the ones that should raise your in a healthy, caring, loving way. But what can a child do if the parent, carers, exposes him/her to some forms of abuse, trauma? Well, here comes the adults which are in contact with the child, they should be the heroes in cases of abuse (social workers, health visitor, teachers, etc).

Childhood trauma affects self image – According to psychology today, one of the most devastating impacts of childhood trauma is the effect it has on self-image. Adults who experienced significant trauma as children are more likely to develop a pattern of victimised thinking. Adopting this ideology is incredibly dangerous, as the way people perceive themselves impacts their words, choices, careers, opportunities and relationships. Individuals who genuinely think the world is out to get them will inevitably attract situations and people who reinforce these beliefs, regardless of how incorrect they may be.

I am thinking about the children who lived in a orphanage, their self esteem is so low. I used to work with kids in orphanages and they had some sad stories about the way they were treat there. Some of them experienced forms of abuse. I can just imagine while in adulthood they might have the same low self esteem or their lives to be totally changed in good. God can heal us of all our past, bad experiences and help us forgive and understand peoples actions towards us.

Their are 4 types of abuse ( physical, sexual, emotional, neglect). Some kids experience this types of abuse, and usually happens in family, but family should be LOVE, isn’t it?

If you experienced trauma, abuse in your childhood and now you have anxiety, depression, feel like worthless, just give all to God and HE is ready to heal and love you unconditionally.

If you are a parent, love your kids and treat them with care, compassion, you have to power to model the child today for tomorrow’s adulthood.

BE KIND!

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