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How divorce affects children

Growing up with both parents is a blessing, but what is like for a child to grow up with a single parent?

When getting married you do not think it will last 1. month or 5 years but ”till death do us part”, but there are some parents who decide to break the vow sooner. There are a lot of reasons why the parents divorce. When the marriage come to an end the parents are now fighting for the custody ( well, some of them).

Which are the effects of divorce

I will say the first 6 months – 1 year is the most difficult time

The kids might suffer anxiety, distress, anger, abandoned, and can have suicidal thoughts (depends on their age).

There is a huge emotional impact on young children, they can blame themselves about the situation, or they may think that the parents are not loving them.

Children from divorced families may experience more externalising problems, such as conduct disorders, children may also experience more conflict with peers after a divorce, poor academic results.

Always tell your children the truth in regards to divorce!

I believe is better to be divorced than staying in a toxic relationship.

#encouragement, #love, Compassion for the ones around us

How does childhood trauma affect adulthood

About this subject I can talk, write a lot. I can relate to it. My parents used to neglect us sometimes, neglecting is a trauma. But shall we let the trauma affect our lives? I did not, I understood my parents actions.

When you are a child, the parents are the ones that should raise your in a healthy, caring, loving way. But what can a child do if the parent, carers, exposes him/her to some forms of abuse, trauma? Well, here comes the adults which are in contact with the child, they should be the heroes in cases of abuse (social workers, health visitor, teachers, etc).

Childhood trauma affects self image – According to psychology today, one of the most devastating impacts of childhood trauma is the effect it has on self-image. Adults who experienced significant trauma as children are more likely to develop a pattern of victimised thinking. Adopting this ideology is incredibly dangerous, as the way people perceive themselves impacts their words, choices, careers, opportunities and relationships. Individuals who genuinely think the world is out to get them will inevitably attract situations and people who reinforce these beliefs, regardless of how incorrect they may be.

I am thinking about the children who lived in a orphanage, their self esteem is so low. I used to work with kids in orphanages and they had some sad stories about the way they were treat there. Some of them experienced forms of abuse. I can just imagine while in adulthood they might have the same low self esteem or their lives to be totally changed in good. God can heal us of all our past, bad experiences and help us forgive and understand peoples actions towards us.

Their are 4 types of abuse ( physical, sexual, emotional, neglect). Some kids experience this types of abuse, and usually happens in family, but family should be LOVE, isn’t it?

If you experienced trauma, abuse in your childhood and now you have anxiety, depression, feel like worthless, just give all to God and HE is ready to heal and love you unconditionally.

If you are a parent, love your kids and treat them with care, compassion, you have to power to model the child today for tomorrow’s adulthood.

BE KIND!

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