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KIDS AND THEIR TOYS

When I was a child, I used to like playing with the dolls, but my favourite activities were outdoor with my friends, we used to play a lot of pretend play, my favourite game was to be a reporter, and a saleswoman (girl). I had a lot of money (leafs). We didn’t had many toys as my family was struggling financially. But I am not upset though.

Now let’s talk about the hundreds of toys kids have in these days…can we count it, if you are a parent, just try to count your children’s toys. How many, too many?

Well, I work in a nursery and our kids have a lot of toys too, but sometimes I have observed that they just do wanna play with the toys, but instead they find a cup, stick, spoon, a leaf more interesting.

I know you love your child so much and you want to make them happy, and sometimes it’s easy to make the kids happy, just by buying a toy, but that joy lasts an hour or less. I was an AU PAIR for a family with a 5 years old boy, they were wealthy and they bought a lot of toys for that child, every week there was a brand new toy, Lego, in his hands, do you know how long that child played with the toy, Lego? 1 day, and that was it. The parents spent hundreds of £ practically for a moment of ”new toy happiness”.

Let’s imagine we going in the playroom now, what can you see? Lego everywhere, toys spread all over the floor?

Now is the moment to CLEAN that room. Ask your child what toys are his favourites and which ones he wants to donate to poor children, is the perfect time to teach the child about compassion, giving, sharing. So the ones he/she can give up just donate it and keep the ones they want to play with.

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Fewer toys can encourage more creative and imaginative play. When children have fewer toys, they find ways to use them in creative way. Quality and fewer toys are the solution for that messy playroom.

Surveys have shown that a typical child owns 238 toys in total but parents think their child plays with just 12 favourites on a daily basis.

Toys are really good, it helps with their development. But what if instead of buying a new toy we propose to the child an outdoor activity?

#crinamorpho

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4 Types Of Parenting Styles

I studied social work and I remember the teachers talking about the types of parenting, also recently I have done some online courses about childcare, briefly these types were mentioned.

What are they and how they are affecting the children?

Most probably if you are a parent, you can identify your style, or if you are not a parent, like me, we can identify our parents style. Parenting style has a big impact in child life.

Authoritarian– STRICT, this style is about being strict, it’s about the rules. Parents with an authoritarian style have very high expectations of their children, yet provide very little in the way of feedback. If a child does mistakes, most probably they will be punished and sometimes the authoritarian tends to abuse the child in a physical way.

characteristics of authoritarian parents:

They have little to no patience for misbehaviourAuthoritarian parents expect their children to simply know better than to engage in undesirable behaviour. 

They don’t give children choices or options

They don’t express much warmth or nurturing

The children of authoritarian parents tend to exhibit these effects:

  • They associate obedience with love
  • Some children display aggressive behaviour outside.
  • Some children may act shy around others
  • Children often have lower self-esteem.

Permissive Parenting – Avoids confrontation, they wanna be friend instead of parent, they use rewards or a bribe in order to get the child to do what they wanna do. They rarely discipline their child, there are no rules to follow. Instead of setting rules, they try to prevent problems from happening, they choose to let their child to figure things out for themselves.

Characteristics of permissive parenting:

Emphasise their children’s freedom rather than responsibility

Ask their children’s opinions on major decisions

Are usually very loving towards their kids.

The children of permissive parents tend to exhibit these effects:

poor academic performance and behavioral problems.

Display more aggression and less emotional understanding

they lack motivation, discipline. Also the kids are more likely to engage in underage alcohol, smoking use.

Authoritative Parenting – This type has high standards, expectations. But is balanced with respect, warmth, encourage independence. They are responsive to the child’s emotional needs while having high standard. They might set limits, rules and are very consistent in enforcing boundaries. This Type has been shown to be the best way in treating and raising your child because it leads to the best outcomes in child like better social skills, emotional health, the kid is more secure and attached to their parents.

Characteristics of authoritative parenting:

Leads to development of a cooperative/friendly structure where the child’s spontaneous initiations is encouraged.

They encourage, support, and are sensitive to needs

Creates family unity through compassion, inclusion and respect.

Gives child plenty of affection which result in a sociably child, happy and ready to recognise peoples emotions and also to help them.

The children of authoritative parents tend to exhibit these effects:

Compassionate with others

happy, loving and caring person

Trustworthy, respectful

Confident in abilities. Capable and involved.

Uninvolved/Neglectful parenting – This type is the most harmful of all. Unfortunately because of circumstances in their life, like divorce, drugs, poverty, or sometimes just because they chose to. Sometimes dads can have this style when they do not have a presence in their child’s life, and this can be really damaging. I am praying to God for the children with this type pf parenting.

Characteristics of neglectful parenting:

No affection or guidance given to the child

Likely a substance abuser

Lacks emotional attachment to child

Don’t attend school events and parent-teacher conference

Offer little or no supervision

Do not plan children’s education, future.

Do not care about the child needs

Usually are not interested of sending kids to extracurricular activities.

The children of neglectful/uninvolved parents tend to exhibit these effects:

Low self-esteem, self-reliant. Forced to act mature even though he/she is a child.

Depressed, sad, lonely

No emotional connection between parent and child

The have a hard time forming relationships with other people.

Anxiety.