Attachment is one specific aspect of the relationship between a child and a parent where the child should feel safe, secure, protected. Children first form attachments to their primary caregivers in infancy but continue to need attachment figures across childhood and adolescence. Parents who do a good job of listening to their child, create more confident children, who will openly vocalize their needs. The attachment theory describes very well the connection between a child and the parents or their careers.
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Praise – is very important to be eyes and ears in what and how your child is doing and always communicate with the child, tell them you appreciate their hard work after an exam had the place, tell them that the result doesn’t matter as you know they did a great job. Or you have noticed a good change in their behaviour, he/she does the washing up, why not praising (try not to be fake).
2. Give compliments – Especially with young people is a bit of a tricky situation because once they start school, their social life is expanding and they might take in consideration some wrong opinions or bad role models. Giving compliments from an early age is the key to boost their confidence in themselves. Remind them how beautiful, special and unique they are. You can play a game with them by asking to give 2 compliments to you and you will share the compliments too.
Build positive relationships with your children – work might be tiring for you, you feel like you are drained after hard work and you come home and the child is asking you to play together. What do you do?
Well, if your answer is: Sorry baby, I am tired.
Or: Sure, let’s say what you are doing here, have you done this lego tower today? I am a bit tired from work, but I will play with you for 10 minutes. The child can understand you and you just build a positive relationship with the child.
Respect your child’s feelings by listening and talking with them.
3. Unconditional love – Just knowing that you love and support them, will increase their self-esteem. Let your child know that you will always love him/her unconditionally, no matter what happened. Give hugs say I love you often.
4. Be careful when correcting your child’s behaviour – Do not yell, criticise or blame the child in front of their friends, public spaces, not even at home. Do it calmly and give a reasonable explanation. Help the child understand their actions.