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Pure Kindness

Kindness is grace.

Kindness comes from the Old English word ‘kyndnes’ meaning ‘nation’ or ‘produce, increase’. The word is further derived from the Middle English word ‘kindenes’ meaning ‘noble deeds’ or ‘courtesy’. The first recorded use of the word kindness was in the 14th century.

We are humans, and therefore, we make mistakes. We can be kind in our response to ourselves and others when those mistakes occur. This means thinking before speaking, forgiving before seeking revenge, isn’t this a verse from the bible?

Kindness is — and always will be — one of the most beautiful acts for good that exists in the entire world. But remember being kind is a choice we all make as individuals.

If you are a parent you might consider teaching your baby pure kindness from an early age. Encouraging kindness in the early grades helps children increases happiness and decreases stress. 

The book Happy Hippo and Kind Goose can be a perfect tool for your kids to understand the values of being kind, having a good friendship and happiness comes as a gift.

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Support Children’s Mental Health

1. Stress Management 

Just as adults get stressed, so do young children. However, they may not have the coping strategies yet to handle it. Children may display stress through mood swings, difficulty sleeping, bedwetting or displaying signs of feeling physically unwell such as tummy aches. They may also change their behaviour and habits, becoming more clingy or sucking their thumb. 

When you see signs that your child is stressed, it is important to communicate with them on what may be the source of the problem. Firstly, identify the triggers, then help them to build a strategy towards overcoming the issue. Let them know that it is okay to be anxious or upset, and help provide vocabulary for what they are facing as well as calming techniques. I reccomend you to use pep cards.

2. Make Time for Play/ have fun with your child/ren

Routines are a source of comfort for children, so help build and maintain routines that you can adhere to consistently. Knowing what to expect helps children to feel secure and loved, whilst reinforcing good behaviour and developing positive habits such as washing hands or brushing teeth. It also removes anxieties surrounding the unknown or change. 

3. Healthy food/habits

A nutritious and balanced diet and regular exercise are essential in maintaining your child’s physical and mental health. Introducing good eating habits when they are young will continue as they grow older, and ensures that they have had the proper fuel to support their development.

4. Develop Self-esteem 

For older children in particular, issues such as popularity may impact their wellbeing and stress levels. Therefore, it is important to help them develop self-confidence, so that they can handle change and uncertainty with ease. Make sure to praise your child, celebrating their success and progress. In addition, help them understand that failure is inevitable and often beneficial, as it can help understand what to improve. 

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What is Autism Spectrum Disorder?

I work with children with learning difficulties and I can tell you it’s fun and challenging at the same time but is so rewarding.

Autism is a lifelong developmental disability that affects how people communicate and interact with the world. One in 100 people is on the autism spectrum.

Autism is not an illness

Being autistic does not mean you have an illness or disease. It means your brain works differently from other people.

It’s something you’re born with or first appears when you’re very young.

If you’re autistic, you’re autistic your whole life.

Some autistic people have average or above-average intelligence.

Some autistic people have a learning disability. This means they may find it hard to look after themselves and need help with daily life.

Please note, this post it’s just a short version of it, the ASD is a very broad subject.

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Pretending to be someone you’re not

Have you ever noticed that some people likes ”the game” of pretending to be…?

I think every woman and man from this earth, pretended, for at least few minutes, that they are someone else, not them. Do we call this types of people, FAKE PEOPLE?

Yes, I wanna talk about FAKE PEOPLE, they are all around us. I feel like I wanna give names, but no, Momma said to be NICE 🙂 Just kidding.

I couldn’t say about myself that I have never been FAKE, I did, because it is in our human nature to wear masks. But the key is do you ever stop wearing the masks, do you ever think before deciding who you wanna be today, or do you stop being FAKE, and start being YOURSELF, the real one?

I have received a lot of arguments, comments when I say what I think, or when I give my true opinion, they say ”No Crina, we do not have to say it this way, wow Crina, yeah you right, or they try to wear the angry, fierce mask, or simply they look at me and smile, laugh, with their big eyes open. The thing is that I do not care, I simply wanna be myself.

People pretend to be someone else behind a computer, on social media, at their place of work, at school, or even around their own family. But, deeply inside they can only identify the TRUE, and who they actually are.

My husband read this article and said ”we will always wear a mask, because when we are sad, we do not wanna to show this feeling to people, so we are wearing the “HAPPINESS MASK”.

And this is the reality, especially men are wearing this mask, for them it’s hard to open up, speak about what they feel. For a woman is easy, she goes to work and starts talking about the sadness in her life. Now is this a weakness point?

It’s important to trust GOD to let him change your life, be YOU, be real!

You are unique, nobody is like you, be careful who you trying to be, if you copy a person, or you wearing a wrong “MASK” you can destroy your own unique life!

“Share your weaknesses. Share your hard moments. Share your real side. It’ll either scare away every fake person in your life or it will inspire them to finally let go of that mirage called “perfection,” which will open the doors to the most important relationships you’ll ever be a part of.”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing

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Happy father’s day!

In the USA, UK and Canada – Fathers’ Day is celebrated on the 3rd Sunday in June since being made a national holiday in 1966. In Australia and New Zealand, fathers are honoured the first Sunday in September. Other countries celebrate fathers throughout the year. For example in my country (Romania) we celebrated in May.

I wanna talk about the importance of being a DAD for the children, to be there, to be a foundation for your family.

I could not enjoy that much of my dad, I was his princess for 14 years. But I know that in the moment when dad wasn’t there It felt like a collapse.

Believe me, a dad can make a HUGE difference in his daughter life! He is the one that the girl will look up at and she will take him like a future model of her future husband. When I was about 16 I remember having a boyfriend and I used to compare his actions with my dad, the way he treated me, how my dad treat my MOM and even the appearance.

A father has an even greater influence on his children than a mother when it comes to the development of behaviour traits.

Fathers who show love to their daughters and accept them as they are help foster a positive sense of self in the female. Negligent fathers, on the other hand, can send their daughters down a dark path of depression, substance abuse, and psychological problems.

Fathers also play an important role when we talk about the financial and physical health of their daughters. Girls see their fathers as a symbol of financial stability. If the father was involved a lot in his daughter’s childhood, his daughter will be more likely to have better physical and financial health which can lead her to success.

Now, do not get me wrong, but fathers are important not just in his girl life but in the family as a whole!

Here is testimony from a anonymous person

”My father was emotionally absent, rejected me and was not the ideal father. I also watched him cheat on my mother. This article is so true because I became aggressive, angry, and did terrible in school. They got a divorce and it just caused so much depression and I’ve always felt like something was missing”.

HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!

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Being kind doesn’t mean we have to be stupid, weak, naive!

I always say BE KIND and I truly believe in the meaning of these words!

But, I have noticed that some people sees the kindness like a weak value, something that can be used against you.  

I think some persons even think I’m easy to manipulate or a real push-over. I remember a lot of situations when I chose to be kind to a person and let myself down so that person can feel he/she won.

I am sure that God gave me this value and wants me to use it and to be kind, But also I AM SURE He doesn’t wants people to think or treat me as I am a weak person, here is not my problem but their problem. I choose to still show kindness and help people, I believe kindness can transform a heart made of stones into a gold heart full of kindness and compassion!

Learned my lesson, some people will always try to put you down and think they are better than you, and makes you feel weak, especially when they discover your kindness ”weapon”. In these situation I remember these kind of people seek attention, they might be hurt inside, or have no wisdom!

Like bible says in Matthew 5:44, just read, it’s an amazing verse

In these time we all live, feels like it’s the end of the world soon. So if we are all unkind, severe what is going to happen? Next time we meet a kind, compassionate person, try to be nice and think that we all live on this earth we all never know what happens in the next minute, we have to measure our words that comes from our mouth. We all live once, let’s be kind and lovely persons!

What is kindness?

Kindness is a behaviour marked by ethical characteristics, a pleasant disposition and consideration for others. It s a virtue, a value which is considered to be one of the knightly virtues.

Being kind often requires courage and strength!

BE KIND!!!

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Children without parental care

There is so much to write and say about this subject. It’s really sad to see children exposed to harm, abuse. Today we gonna focus on children without parental care.

Children without parental care are exposed to many risks, neglect, all types of abuse, and also large numbers of children end up in institutional care.

In 2008, in Central and Eastern Europe some 1.3 million children lived in public care; just under half of these lived in large-scale residential care facilities or boarding schools (UNICEF, At home or in a home, 2011). In the Middle East and Africa, over 300,000 children are estimated to live in residential care (UNICEF 2009 Progress for children).

There are many reasons why children are left without parents:

Natural death

The parents went to work abroad

They can’t afford raising them

Divorce, sickness

Abuse of drugs, alcohol

Can you think of other reasons, comment below!

Few days ago I’ve seen a documentary about children without parental care in China. They’ve estimated that over 60 million of children have no parents!

A child said ”Everyone has a Mom and Dad, but I do not, at the end of every semester when the school asks for our parents feedback, I do not have anyone to wright the comments, as my grandparents can’t write or read. I often feel envious when I see children with their parents on the street”.

Are these kids condemned to a life without parental love, harm, neglect, exploitation, sadness and so on?

I think we all should do something for them, to be there physically or by supporting the people which are ready to change a life!

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T-SHIRT FAITH.LOVE.HOPE

I used to raise funds around Christmas time for poor children in Romania, but I wanna do more for them, like they need food every day, not just in December, right?

One of the goals, when I create the blog was (and still is) to help poor children, to raise a concern and to gather people around the same subject, I know and believe that a team can do better than one person. Together let’s feed kids in poverty.

T-shirt FAITH. LOVE. HOPE

T-SHIRT made from 100% cotton. Good quality! Perfect to be a GIFT. Available sizes XS, S, M 25% is donated to poor children in Roumania, we will buy food for them, pictures to come!

£25.00

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How does living in poverty affect a child?

What is poverty, how is like to live all your childhood in the poverty, what opportunities has a person once reached the adulthood, what can we do to help poor children?

Poverty is a state condition in which a person or community lack the financial resources and essentials for a minimum standard of living. Poverty means that the income level from employment is so low that basic human needs can’t be met. Poverty-stricken people and families might go without proper housing, clean water, electricity, food, medical attention, and so on.

Living in poverty like a child is really sad, they might have a sense of hopeless about their future than their more affluent peers. Low income, poor quality housing, debt put children’s mental health at risk.

Imagine the child wakes up in the morning, in a tiny house with no running water, heating, bathroom, electricity, kitchen, no food in the fridge. Just a small room, 1 bed, 1 stove, and nothing else, but that child is preparing to go to school with no breakfast, uniform or not knowing when the next meal comes from. Isn’t this sad? I know people living like this, I used to live similar conditions, but God had his plans for me and my family.

Living in poverty can effect a child in all areas like education, health, personal development. If the child doesn’t have the luck of having good parents, like the ones who understand the importance of education, that child most probably will drop out the school,so the child needs someone who is ready to help him, encourage and send him to school. I have seen in many poor communities this kids of problem, kids dropping out the school and getting married (early marriage), a child which is 13 can give up to school and form a family, so the poverty circle never ends. This is one of the reasons I want to raise a concern about it. The power of example in this communities is strong, children thinks that is normal and they should do the same like others.

Children having children is blossoming,once this, many more problems comes like child abuse, domestic violence, poverty.

Sometimes in these communities comes people ready to help, improve their conditions and give opportunities, some families are ready and open for it, some are not interested. But if you can save 1 child from 100, for me is like gold, means a lot.

I am trying my best to be able, in the future to help poor children, they need a hand of help, they need someone who cares about them. Helping a child to go to school, or to feed, improve living conditions is like saving a life.

BE KIND!

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Teaching kids about grace

What is grace, and how we can give grace to children?

GRACE – receiving a blessing you didn’t earn and don’t deserve

I love the meaning of God’s grace- We deserved punishment but God offered us grace, mercy. He gave His son for us at the cross.

Ephesians 2:8-9

I think a parent gives the children grace after grace everyday. Just think about it (if you have a child), let’s say the child broke a vase, would you scream and punish your kid? No, instead you give forgiveness and love, using nice words with your kid. This is grace. If you want the child to have mercy and to learn the grace of God, show it to them, usually kids learn by observing, kids are very much like sponges, soaking up the experiences they have each and every day.

Here are some ideas/activities for the parents to do with their kiddos.

  1. Teach them about the grace – Read a bible story, for example the the story of prodigal son.
  2. Watch a YouTube video ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EXCBHK6FPEw). I recommend this one.
  3. Show them grace – try to understand the reasons behind the actions. Be there, the children needs parents presence, talk with them, love them unconditionally, teach them the right from bad

Talking with kids about grace is so important and wise. Just imagine when that child will grow up, he/she will offer grace to other people, they will be kind, ready to forgive, compassionate and ready to help.

JOHN 3:16

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