Talking about tough topics with their child/ren looks like a difficult job for some parents. They prefer not to discuss and keep it secret or delay in discussing tough themes with children. Depending on the topic, some parents believe it’s for child’s good not to know about different topics.
Tough topics include death, illness, divorce, adoption, sex.
Depending on the child’s age there are different approaches to talk. At every age, children have different questions, they are curious about the world around them, so why shouldn’t we answer them?
You know the famous children’s questions, ”where do babies come from”? My parents used to say that babies are brought by storks.
So, every time seeing a stork, I wonder which new family received the baby that day, or I will look at the bird and ask myself ”where is the baby”? Such a lie and a crazy way of explaining the meaning of a new life.
There are a lot of wonderful and inteligent ways of explaining to your 5 years old child where do babies come from. Explain them with the right words, do not give them false information!
If you can’t talk about a topic then let others do it. But it doesn’t mean that children are not capable of knowing or understanding. Do not keep it secret until you finalise the divorce and then let them know, they will feel lied to, betrayed.
Tough topics were asked one by you, me and other adults. Give the right answer and always provide the right support for your child/ren