#children, #development

Keep them close by letting go

Last year I enrolled on a CPD course called Positive Parenting.
I recommend this course to anyone working with children, parents, carers, anyone who comes in contact with children.
It comes in handy now that in less than a week I will be on the road called ”parenting”

This is a lesson I read many times because I found myself and some friends caught in this ”story”.

Being too restrictive builds up resentment and can lead to rebellion- let go of them.

Helping our children make their own decisions and choices instead of telling them what to do it’s far more beneficial. Let them decide with guidance.

Of course, if a child is very young and in danger, we are not going to let them do something that would obviously be harmful, that’s why we are there to supervise, guide, teach them.

Help them develop independence, self worth and self confidence

When I was a child, my parents never taught us any self confidence or worth but a form of ”crazy” independence. Growing up I taught myself how to be confident, know my worth.

  • Ask for their opinion and show you value it by acting on what they say at least some of the time.
  • Encourage them to think for themselves, share opinions and options. This will help them to problem solve.
  • Help them feel included and and confident to contribute. This is essential for teaching them to value their opinions, self confidence and self worth,

Like I said, if you wanna expand your knowledge, skills do this course, it’s amazing how will make you remember of your childhood, your parenting styles or your parents tyoe of parenting.

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What are the risks associated with child abuse

Immediately, it might be argued that any child is vulnerable to abuse because by their nature, a child’s age makes them more susceptible to being taken advantage of than most adults. However, there are some groups of children who, for various reasons, will be more likely to be abused than others.

It is important to keep in mind when referring to vulnerability to child abuse that a risk factor it just that – a risk only. Children may face one or more risk factors but this does not mean that it is inevitable that they will become a victim of abuse, as this is not the case at all.

What a risk factor does mean though is that a child who does have one or more of them should be closely monitored and, wherever possible, enabled and encouraged to speak up about their difficulties as enabling children to communicate more freely means that should an instance of abuse occur, they may be more confident to report what is happening to them.

Some of the risk factors that make children more susceptible to abuse include:

  • Disability
  • Has a parent who has substance or alcohol misuse issues
  • Isolationchildren who are isolated, perhaps due to disability or mental health difficulties are more susceptible to abuse as they have less opportunity to report abuse.
  • Lives in a household where there is domestic abuse
  • Age

Neglect is a form of child abuse but it appears that there are specific risk factors which increase a child’s likelihood of experiencing neglect, which include:

Poverty

Lack of support

 Living in a difficult environment- where there is deprivation and high rates of crime in the local area. It is known that children who live in deprived areas have a greater chance of abuse and of being subject to a child protection plan or being taken into care.

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Pregnancy journey

“'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. '” — Jeremiah 29:11

May 2022 – On the pregnancy test was this word ”pregnant” It was the most shocking, not expected, blessed day so far. From May to October I have experienced what it means to grow a baby inside you, new life given by God to us.
At the beginning of my first trimester I felt sick and tired, and all the condiments from the cupboard had to be chucked aways, the smell was too strong for me. Today
The second trimester was the best so far, it’s true that I became a foodie but I am proud to have self-control over it.
I remember when I first felt my baby’s movement, such an amazing feeling that only a Mom can describe.
We are thankful for a healthy, very active baby in my womb. As I just entered my last trimester, we are excited to meet our little munchkin in 2 months time.

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Mary Ainsworth | The Strange Situation 

The strange situation is a standardized procedure devised by Mary Ainsworth in the 1970s to observe attachment security in children within the context of caregiver relationships. It applies to infants between the age of nine and 18 months.

The procedure involves series of eight episodes lasting approximately 3 minutes each, whereby a mother, child and stranger are introduced, separated and reunited.

John Bowlby (1969) believed that attachment was an all or nothing process. However, research has shown that there are individual differences in attachment quality. Indeed, one of the primary paradigms in attachment theory is that of the security of an individual’s attachment (Ainsworth & Bell, 1970).

Ainsworth (1970) identified three main attachment styles, secure (type B), insecure avoidant (type A) and insecure ambivalent/resistant (type C). She concluded that these attachment styles were the result of early interactions with the mother.

A fourth attachment style known as disorganized was later identified (Main, & Solomon, 1990).

Main, M., & Solomon, J. (1990). Procedures for identifying infants as disorganized/disoriented during the Ainsworth Strange Situation. In M.T. Greenberg, D. Cicchetti & E.M. Cummings (Eds.), Attachment in the Preschool Years (pp. 121–160). Chicago, University of Chicago Press.

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Inclusive Education

Inclusion in education refers to all students being able to access and gain equal opportunities to education and learning.

Inclusive education is the most effective way to give all pupils a fair chance to go to school, learn and develop the skills they need to thrive. It means real learning opportunities for groups who have traditionally been excluded, not only children with disabilities, but speakers of minority languages too.

Some of the benefits of inclusive practice include:

  • Teaching pupils about diversity and equality.
  • Improving, encouraging friendships between diverse children (Diversity)
  • Promoting parental confidence that their children are being accepted and can be successful in the school setting.#

An estimated 240 million children worldwide live with disabilities. Like all children, children with disabilities have ambitions and dreams for their futures. Like all children, they need quality education to develop their skills and realize their full potential.

Yet, children with disabilities are often overlooked in policymaking, limiting their access to education and their ability to participate in social, economic and political life. Worldwide, these children are among the most likely to be out of school. They face persistent barriers to education stemming from discrimination, stigma and the routine failure of decision makers to incorporate disability in school services – Source UNICEF

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Cum să publicați o carte pentru copii – Londra

Happy Hippo și Kind Gose este cărticica pe care am publicat-o in Iulie 2021 în Londra.

Scriu această postare deoarece multe persoane m-au contactat pentru a le da câteva sfaturi, raspunde la întrebări.

Cartea mea este publicată de o editură independenta, asta înseamnă 100% drepturi de autor. Dezavantaje sunt si aici destule, dar pasiunea și scopul cărții sunt mai importante pentru mine.

CUM?

Pasul 1. Ai obținut ISBN-ul cărții? Ai nevoie de câte un ISBN (cod de bare) pentru fiecare format al cărții. Hippo și Goose este în format fizic -paperback și electronic pe Amazon Kindle.

Pasul 2. Ai pdf-ul cărtii cu ilustrațiile? Daca răspunsul este DA! atunci este timpul pentru printareeeeee, si aici ai nevoie de o căutare buna pe Google. Eu îți pot da o recomandare cu prețuri foarte bune și calitate de nota 10, scrie mi aici pe e-mail http://www.moncojbooks.com

3. Ar trebui acum să ai cartea în mânuțe, fii mândră/ mândru de realizarea ta! You did it! Dar partea cea mai dificila începe acum, știi de ce?

4. Promovarea cărții, practic a muncii tale dedicate celor mai frumoase suflețele de pe acest pământ. Cartea să fie pe website, Amazon și rețele de socializare.

Pasul 5. Nu-ți pierde speranța, adu-ti aminte scopul cărții și zâmbetele inocente ale copiilor care deja ți-au deschis cartea.

Pentru mai multe detalii despre Hippo si Goose aveti link-ul de mai jos.

http://www.moncojbooks.com

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Amazon Kindle format aici https://www.amazon.co.uk/Happy-Hippo-Goose-Crina-Mondoc-ebook/dp/B098TKTH8W/ref=sr_1_2?crid=1380S9XB7PZJO&keywords=happy+hippo+and+kind+goose&qid=1646476411&sprefix=%2Caps%2C241&sr=8-2

Îmi puteți scrie pe moncojbooks@gmail.com

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Child neglect

If a baby is malnourished, neural cells can become weak or damaged and this can cause lowered brain function. If a child has little interaction with their caregiver, it can change how emotional and verbal pathways develop and impact their ability to learn. This may have consequences for brain functioning in later life.

Our brains develop from before birth and into adulthood

What happens in a child or young person’s life during these periods can have a significant effect on their brain development.

Positive experiences throughout childhood help to build healthy brains, while experiencing childhood trauma and abuse can harm a child’s brain development (Shonkoff et al, 2015)

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Support Children’s Mental Health

1. Stress Management 

Just as adults get stressed, so do young children. However, they may not have the coping strategies yet to handle it. Children may display stress through mood swings, difficulty sleeping, bedwetting or displaying signs of feeling physically unwell such as tummy aches. They may also change their behaviour and habits, becoming more clingy or sucking their thumb. 

When you see signs that your child is stressed, it is important to communicate with them on what may be the source of the problem. Firstly, identify the triggers, then help them to build a strategy towards overcoming the issue. Let them know that it is okay to be anxious or upset, and help provide vocabulary for what they are facing as well as calming techniques. I reccomend you to use pep cards.

2. Make Time for Play/ have fun with your child/ren

Routines are a source of comfort for children, so help build and maintain routines that you can adhere to consistently. Knowing what to expect helps children to feel secure and loved, whilst reinforcing good behaviour and developing positive habits such as washing hands or brushing teeth. It also removes anxieties surrounding the unknown or change. 

3. Healthy food/habits

A nutritious and balanced diet and regular exercise are essential in maintaining your child’s physical and mental health. Introducing good eating habits when they are young will continue as they grow older, and ensures that they have had the proper fuel to support their development.

4. Develop Self-esteem 

For older children in particular, issues such as popularity may impact their wellbeing and stress levels. Therefore, it is important to help them develop self-confidence, so that they can handle change and uncertainty with ease. Make sure to praise your child, celebrating their success and progress. In addition, help them understand that failure is inevitable and often beneficial, as it can help understand what to improve. 

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Attachment Theory

Attachment is characterized by specific behaviors in children, such as seeking proximity to the attachment figure when upset or threatened (Bowlby, 1969).

Stages of Attachment

Rudolph Schaffer and Peggy Emerson (1964) investigated if attachment develops through a series of stages, by studying 60 babies at monthly intervals for the first 18 months of life (this is known as a longitudinal study).

The children were all studied in their own home, and a regular pattern was identified in the development of attachment.

The babies were visited monthly for approximately one year, their interactions with their carers were observed, and carers were interviewed.

A diary was kept by the mother to examine the evidence for the development of attachment. Three measures were recorded:

• Stranger Anxiety – response to arrival of a stranger.

• Separation Anxiety – distress level when separated from carer, degree of comfort needed on return.

• Social Referencing – degree that child looks at carer to check how they should respond to something new (secure base).

Bowlby suggested that a child would initially form only one primary attachment (monotropy) and that the attachment figure acted as a secure base for exploring the world.

The attachment relationship acts as a prototype for all future social relationships so disrupting it can have severe consequences.

This theory also suggests that there is a critical period for developing an attachment (about 0 -5 years).

If an attachment has not developed during this period, then the child will suffer from irreversible developmental consequences, such as reduced intelligence and increased aggression.

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#children, #development, autisism, learning difficulties

What is Autism Spectrum Disorder?

I work with children with learning difficulties and I can tell you it’s fun and challenging at the same time but is so rewarding.

Autism is a lifelong developmental disability that affects how people communicate and interact with the world. One in 100 people is on the autism spectrum.

Autism is not an illness

Being autistic does not mean you have an illness or disease. It means your brain works differently from other people.

It’s something you’re born with or first appears when you’re very young.

If you’re autistic, you’re autistic your whole life.

Some autistic people have average or above-average intelligence.

Some autistic people have a learning disability. This means they may find it hard to look after themselves and need help with daily life.

Please note, this post it’s just a short version of it, the ASD is a very broad subject.

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Amazing announcement

My absence from the blog is very well explained and comes with a surprise.
My children’s book Happy Hippo and Kind Goose is available on kindle edition on Amazon.co.uk. Soon paperback will be available.
If you want your children, grandchildren to have a great laugh and learn about friendship, kindness, happiness, then order a copy now.

Much appreciated 🙂