The quality of being certain of your abilities or of having trust in people, plans, or the future.
Without confidence, we can’t do things like committing to something, sticking to our decisions, and taking calculated risks. You can’t work well if you keep second-guessing your actions. (William James) “Father of American psychology”
Being confident in all areas of your life is the key that opens many doors. Unfortunately, not many of us are aces when it comes to confidence, but the most important is to practice it every day. Be confident, smart, humble, open-minded.
Self-confidence in child development
They feel confident and secure, they’re more likely to succeed in school and achieve personal goals. As they get older, they learn to confront problems and resist peer pressure. More important, having a positive self-image helps a child feel happy and capable of maintaining personal relationships. Keep up the good work, parents!
Kindness comes from the Old English word ‘kyndnes’ meaning ‘nation’ or ‘produce, increase’. The word is further derived from the Middle English word ‘kindenes’ meaning ‘noble deeds’ or ‘courtesy’. The first recorded use of the word kindness was in the 14th century.
We are humans, and therefore, we make mistakes. We can be kind in our response to ourselves and others when those mistakes occur. This means thinking before speaking, forgiving before seeking revenge, isn’t this a verse from the bible?
Kindness is — and always will be — one of the most beautiful acts for good that exists in the entire world. But remember being kind is a choice we all make as individuals.
If you are a parent you might consider teaching your baby pure kindness from an early age. Encouraging kindness in the early grades helps children increases happiness and decreases stress.
The book Happy Hippo and Kind Goose can be a perfect tool for your kids to understand the values of being kind, having a good friendship and happiness comes as a gift.
Peer pressure or influence is when you do something you wouldn’t otherwise do, because you want to feel integrated and accepted by your ”friends”.
Peer influence can be positive or negative.
Some teenagers might choose to try things they usually wouldn’t be interested in, like smoking or behaving in antisocial ways.
According to Dr B. J. Casey from the Weill Medical College of Cornell University, young children are quick and accurate in making judgments and decisions on their own and in situations where they have time to think. However, when they have to make decisions, mainly they are often influenced by external factors like peers.
Humility is the quality of being humble. Being humble is the opposite of being proud!
Children need to know that achievements, social status, and abilities are not what give them worth.
What is even sadder is that children are being targeted by the pride monster. Social pressure is killing them. Constantly they have to promote themselves on social media and keep comparing themselves with their peers.
Humble children understand that all children have the same inherent worth as themselves. Help your children develop humility by:
Spending time together, be an example for them, show humility
Spend time outdoors
Teach a growth mindset
Encourage relationship with the people in their life
Usually, over-parenting happens in families with one child or with the first child when parents are trying desperately to raise a perfect child which eventually will become the perfect adult, which word ”perfect” doesn’t exist!
By the age of 2, some children can read, write, cook, swim, drive, start up a business, and paint the walls not with poo but paint. I am exaggerating and sarcastic now.
Over-parenting or tiger parenting comes in many forms and many actions done by the parents thinking that they are protecting and raising a healthy child, when in fact, they give no chance to that child to decide without their influential. Family Studies has found that over-parented children show less autonomy, competence and ability to relate to others as teens, which can result in depression and decreased overall life satisfaction.
Children deserve a childhood with no unnecessary restrictions from an over-parenting parent!
Relax, take a deep breath and re-think your parenting style!
Do you let your children express their feelings, or you ask them not to cry and go to their room?
Are you supporting the child to express those feelings, emphasise with an angry, frustrated, happy, sad child?
”If we were told from the beginning that childhood defines adult mental health, we would take care to be more loving of a child’s soul”.
I think most of our parents would relate to this sentence.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to be smart about managing your emotions.
E.I describes someone’s ability to express his or her emotions appropriately, to correctly interpret other people’s emotions, and to understand the triggers and outcomes of certain emotions.
From the age of two, your child should be able to show affection, you might see three years old comforting an upset child, they five hugs or a toy. They are capable of understanding the feeling of others. There are thousands of ideas on how to teach your child about emotions ( use cards, be a role model, and other technics like “bubble breaths”).
Imagine you are a 5 y.o and you playing with Legos, building a house, and someone comes and is destroying your work, what do you do next as a child?
But what would a parent that knows the importance of E.I in early childhood? Most probably will come to you and let you communicate your feelings, talk with you about understanding others, compassion, and support you in building the new house of Legos
Attachment is one specific aspect of the relationship between a child and a parent where the child should feel safe, secure, protected. Children first form attachments to their primary caregivers in infancy but continue to need attachment figures across childhood and adolescence. Parents who do a good job of listening to their child, create more confident children, who will openly vocalize their needs. The attachment theory describes very well the connection between a child and the parents or their careers.
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Children must be taught how to think, not what to think. ― Margaret Mead
Self-esteem is feeling proud, resilient, good, happy about yourself. Children usually absorb the level of self-esteem from their parents, as the parents are the mirror for them.
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Praise – is very important to be eyes and ears in what and how your child is doing and always communicate with the child, tell them you appreciate their hard work after an exam had the place, tell them that the result doesn’t matter as you know they did a great job. Or you have noticed a good change in their behaviour, he/she does the washing up, why not praising (try not to be fake).
2. Give compliments – Especially with young people is a bit of a tricky situation because once they start school, their social life is expanding and they might take in consideration some wrong opinions or bad role models. Giving compliments from an early age is the key to boost their confidence in themselves. Remind them how beautiful, special and unique they are. You can play a game with them by asking to give 2 compliments to you and you will share the compliments too.
Build positive relationships with your children – work might be tiring for you, you feel like you are drained after hard work and you come home and the child is asking you to play together. What do you do?
Well, if your answer is: Sorry baby, I am tired.
Or: Sure, let’s say what you are doing here, have you done this lego tower today? I am a bit tired from work, but I will play with you for 10 minutes. The child can understand you and you just build a positive relationship with the child.
Respect your child’s feelings by listening and talking with them.
3. Unconditional love – Just knowing that you love and support them, will increase their self-esteem. Let your child know that you will always love him/her unconditionally, no matter what happened. Give hugs say I love you often.
4. Be careful when correcting your child’s behaviour – Do not yell, criticise or blame the child in front of their friends, public spaces, not even at home. Do it calmly and give a reasonable explanation. Help the child understand their actions.
What is positive parenting? Positive parenting builds healthier relationships between parents and their children. It gives the parents the tools they need to use at the right time, is also focused on developing a strong committed bond with the children based on respect and communication. Some studies show that children with parents that care and take the parenting classes are much happier and open to talk about their problems with their parents. Being a positive parent means: To set boundaries To be responsive To care and to act To prioritise the time you spent with children Be honest Listen
Be a good role model#
And the list can continue.
If you need help with you parenting styles, let me know.
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