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Why I can’t agree in totality with this quote

Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime

Most of us have been told or heard someone saying this proverb, some people will say it with pride or others with belief.

Let’s ”translate” this saying= If you do something for someone, like giving a free fish to a needy person, they will eat that fish and tomorrow they will be hungry again. But if you show/teach them how to fish, they will learn how to take care of themselves for the rest of their life.

BUT be very careful when you say this quote as there are people with disabilities, basically, it’s over their human power to fish for themselves! Now tell me, how can the disabled child or adult not aware of their surroundings take that fish hook and go out to the lake, river, sea, whatever and catch the fish to eat it tomorrow. Impossible right?

The above explains why I can’t agree with the whole proverb itself. I believe half of it, and I am sure you understand which part.

Some charities, businesses, CIOs, Social enterprises and the list can continue are using this proverb. I would not use this proverb because can’t be applied to all individuals, let’s not forget about the most vulnerable people in this world.

What are your thoughts about the proverb? Leave a comment

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Happy 2022

“Kindness, kindness, kindness.

I want to make a New year’s prayer, not a resolution. I’m praying for courage.”
― Susan Sontag

I do not believe in the famous saying ”new year, new me” you know why? Oh well, because nothing can be new about us, we are still the same we were 1 day ago, on the 31st of December. 24 hours can’t make you all new.
We are getting too excited about the 1st of January, full of ideas thinking that this year will be different in a good, better way. But wait 1 minute, HOW?


Why a new year can give us a bag full of inspiration, ideas, excitement, and a new notebook to write in!?
We do forget something, planning our year with Jesus, our God. Being more Thankful, praying more often, and writing our new plans, ideas, challenge for the new year in god’s notebook.
Let’s not disappoint ourselves with our new year, new me by trying very hard and then at the end of the year to get depressed. Be wise and smart!
Start your morning with a prayer, and coffee/tea then everything will settle down.

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Happy Hippo and Kind Goose A book about being kind and happy at the same time. For 2-5 years olds. More info on moncojbooks.com

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Teaching children to be grateful

Start from an early age to teach your child/ren the art of appreciation and gratefulness

Sometimes, children do not understand (depending on age) that to have 4, 5 boxes of toys in the lounge, someone has to work to afford those toys, they aren’t falling from the sky nor a magic formula will bring stuff for us. So we have to explain, teach our children the art of being grateful, thankful with what they have and not asking every day for a robot, doll, Lego and so on

I have witnessed some parents bribing their child with a new expensive toy every time they wanted to go out on a Saturday night, they will say
”If you go to sleep now and behave,m tomorrow we will buy you a new toy” the child is snoring so off they went. Tell me to know, will the child appreciate the toys, or will she/he ever play with that toy?

Start by teaching them to say the magic words ”Thank you and please” Be a role model for them. Treat everyone with kindness.

Talk with children about sharing. Observe the child at a play date, is he/she happy sharing the toys?

What if you ask the children to pack up some toys they do not want and then take them to the children home or the poor family you know. Now is the time for the child to understand the art of gratefulness.