Copilul în secolul XXI

Copilăria în secolul XXI este extrem de diferită față de toate generațiile.

Practic de la vârsta de 1 an sau cateva luni de viață, copilului i se face cunoștință cu tehnologia, pentru a nu mai plânge sau să poată mama să își facă treaba, copilului i se pune tableta, telefonul, etc în față să se uite la desene animate, să asculte muzică…am vazut cazuri, nu inventez.

Ce îi așa de rău în asta?

• În primul rând copilul nu are nici macar 2 ani (vârsta)
• Practic acel copil nu socializează cu nimeni
• Relația părinte-copil are de suferit mai târziu deoarece copilul o să vrea tot mai mult acel device.
• Nu există dezvoltare fizică

Telefoanele si copii au devenit bun prieteni în aceste vremuri, mai ales în timpul COVID-19. Da, este mult mai ușor acum având smartphone-ul la îndemână, comunicarea cu rude,prietenii din alte țări este mult mai ușoară, și rapidă. Dar, ce ne facem când comunicarea cu cei din aceeași casă a devenit none, zero, și asta din cauza telefoanelor inteligente, si a altor dispozitive.

Se face abuz de telefon sau de ceea ce poate oferii telefonul?

Dacă un copil de 8-10 ani are telefon personal, cu acces la internet, acum fiți sigur ca acel copil crede că are o comoară, pe care de cate ori o deschide îi oferă ceva interesant, nou, interzis. Am văzut copii cu telefon de ultima generație la școală, acest lucru, zic părinți că are avantaje ”pentru siguranța copilului și a părintelui”. Ok, dar ai tu acces la acel telefon, știi tu ce se întâmplă în pauză, poate copilul are facebook și de abia așteaptă pauza pentru a vorbii cu X din țara Y, ca este cool. Și cu toții știm cum oamenii răi se ascund în spatele monitorului (pedofilii, de exemplu).

Copilul după vârsta de 12 ani poate avea telefon, atâta timp cât părinții au acces total asupra activității telefonului. Verificați ce căutari au pe google, la ce se uite pe YouTube, sau daca au un cont de socializare și ce se întâmplă cu el. Am niște copii de 12-13 ani pe contul de Instagram, și văd tot feluri de postări diabolice, challenge-uri… de exemplu acum câteva zile am văzut un challenge care era postat de acest copil, și la bază avea ca 2 din prietenii lui ( băiat, fată) să meargă la o întâlnire, ca un fel de ”date” și se putea alege da sau nu, dar toți erau super încântați de idee, acum nu știu ce face o fată și un băiat de 12 ani la întalnire…dar oare părinții știu?

De asemenea tot pe Instagram, văd fete de 10-12 ani postând poze cu posteriorul la vedere, mai mult dezbracate decât îmbrăcate, interesant că părinții sunt creștini, oameni cu educație, oameni de afaceri. Unde este rușinea, stima de sine, și altele? Mie îmi este rușine și dacă mi se vede breteau de la sutien, online nu este tocmai locul ideal de a-ți arăta frumusețea corpului.

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English Devices and kids

Devices and kids

I wanted to write about this topic for a long time, and finally here is it.

Parents are all different, their parenting styles are not the same, not even between 2 parents of the same child. Now, having a baby in the 21st century is like they were born in the same time with a well known phone, you know which one I am talking about, you most probably have it in your hand, pocket, bag…

Now let’s talk about our topic

Young brains needs a lot of external stimulation to develop, particular from birth to age 3 (critical period). In this period is better for your child to stay away from devices, keep them engaged with books, talk to them, do indoor or outdoor activities like baking or a trip to the forest. Some parents choose for their child to be in a nursery, kindergarten, in this way children stays away from phone, iPad, tablets, etc. But when kids spent the most of the time at home, some parents introduce to their kids the devices voluntary or involuntary. Now, I am not blaming anyone, there are positives and negatives in all things from this earth.

I was born in 1995, so I did not know that phone exists until I was probably 8 or 9 (2003), that’s when I had my first phone, can you imagine how proud and happy, excited I was? even though that was an old NOKIA, and the only thing I can do was to play that snake game, do you know what I am talking about?

Now, why I was happy about it, well probably because of that game or just the feeling of having that device, or that I could of call my friends, it was something new and exciting. The TV was always there in our room, so I remember watching cartoons quite a lot and sometimes I fought with my brother because he wanted a different channel. Boys and girls didn’t had the same interests, not at that time 🙂

So imagine now, after 2010, the children are amazed of devices, especially that it can offer them a lot of diversity. Of course they will fall in love with mommy’s, daddy’s phone or that tablet, iPad you leave it on the couch…

At work I see babies (15 months old) taking a toy that might look like a phone and hold it to they ears are says ”hello”, so what are we talking about, a child aged 15 months and thinks he is talking on the phone, well our children copies everything we do and say. He most probably seen Mom, dad holding that device at their ear.

INTRODUCINF CHILDREN TO ELECTRONICS

I am not against this, but we have to keep in mind 2 things – the age of the child and the time the child is exposed to the device!

If we give a 2 year old the phone, iPad in their hands or put it in front of them to watch cartoons, or to listen to music, so we can do our job… well I am against, and I will tell ypu why, first the child’s age and then you gave that child no external stimulation, no social interaction. What if we invite someone to keep an eye on our child?

If the child is 8 years old and we slowly introduce him/her to the device let them watch, discover, play songs, cartoons for not longer than 1 hour a day, why? Well, because we are in the 21st century and the technology is what we live in. The child might find interests, passion in technology an this a good opportunity to grow up with and later to be a software developer, IT manager, etc. We need people in this areas as in this world is what we feed our self with. Can you imagine life without internet, phones, computers, and other devices? In hospital, schools they need technology.

Supervise your kid activity while using the devices, make sure you do not let them have full access to things you don’t wanna the child look to. It’s so easy to have access to a lot of disturbing content these days, and always remember that online world is not always safe, there are many paedophiles behind the screen.

I have seen a lot of children on Instagram posting ”challenges” that require to meet and have a date and God knows what happens after that ”date”. And the parents has also an Instagram account to, hello do you follow your child activity? Do it now, before is too late, no offence!

My advice is to have in mind the age, purpose, health benefits, time, before introducing kids to devices!

LET KIDS BE KIDS AND THEN SLOWLY LET THEM DISCOVER THEIR PASSION, INTERESTS!

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