Last year I enrolled on a CPD course called Positive Parenting. I recommend this course to anyone working with children, parents, carers, anyone who comes in contact with children. It comes in handy now that in less than a week I will be on the road called ”parenting”
This is a lesson I read many times because I found myself and some friends caught in this ”story”.
Being too restrictive builds up resentment and can lead to rebellion- let go of them.
Helping our children make their own decisions and choices instead of telling them what to do it’s far more beneficial. Let them decide with guidance.
Of course, if a child is very young and in danger, we are not going to let them do something that would obviously be harmful, that’s why we are there to supervise, guide, teach them.
Help them develop independence, self worth and self confidence
When I was a child, my parents never taught us any self confidence or worth but a form of ”crazy” independence. Growing up I taught myself how to be confident, know my worth.
Ask for their opinion and show you value it by acting on what they say at least some of the time.
Encourage them to think for themselves, share opinions and options. This will help them to problem solve.
Help them feel included and and confident to contribute. This is essential for teaching them to value their opinions, self confidence and self worth,
Like I said, if you wanna expand your knowledge, skills do this course, it’s amazing how will make you remember of your childhood, your parenting styles or your parents tyoe of parenting.
I studied social work back in Romania, got my degree in 2017, but life brought me in the UK in 2018, so clearly I haven’t had a chance to practice in my country, unfortunately.
What I learnt about safeguarding children in Romania may or may not apply in one of the countries.
Safeguarding children it’s such an important act for all that comes in contact with our innocent children, keep an eye out to children’s behaviour, their communication and social interaction.
Every day I am reading my books, praying that after the maternity leave I can get a job to put this in practice( to safeguard as an professional) who cares.
Safeguarding is the action that is taken to promote the welfare of children and protect them from harm. Safeguarding means: protecting children from abuse and maltreatment. preventing harm to children’s health or development.
Did we forget what made us happy years ago, when we were kids!?
Let me give you one example from my childhood (there are many examples, I will try giving you one) Ice skating on the main street with my friends. We didn’t have much or been to our big city Ice Skating Ring, but I knew how to skate on our main street, where everyone was walking by, greeting and doing their Christmas shopping. Nice memories! I still love Ice Skating!
What makes us happy as an adult living in these times? Waking up in the morning to get to our jobs or on the salary day when are we trying to sort out the monthly spending? Are we running after fame, money, career, diplomas, buying a big house in which we are most of the time worried about the next electricity bill (see living costs in 2022) thinking that once we have what we wished for we will be happy again? I m not saying it’s a bad thing to have those, but let’s be honest, what makes us happy? How can we increase our level of happiness and live a blessed and joyful life?
Take a minute and write a list of what makes you and your family happy. A trip for 2 days? Spending more time at your grandparent’s house? Meeting with your old friends? Going ice skating with your family? Planning an exotic holiday? Reading your bible, going to church this Sunday? Cooking your partner’s favourite meal? Buying the dress or shoes you wanted for a while now? Giving a Christmas present to a family in need? Or just having a coffee in the shopping centre?
What makes me happy is waking up early in the morning to drink my coffee. My husband gave me a good night kiss(he also gives one to my baby bump). Eating my favourite chocolate. Good news from my large family. Feeling my baby moving. Supporting my family when is needed and the list is not stopping here.
To to sum up…Enjoy the good coffee, have fun on your holiday, buy the dress– they are all good and fine and bring bright moments into our lives.
Do more of what makes you happy, and be less worried and stressed.
Insecurity is linked to mental health conditions such as narcissism, anxiety, paranoia
A person with high levels of insecurity may often experience a lack of confidence regarding many aspects of life. It may be difficult for that person to form lasting relationships or do their daily routine.
Insecurity can be based on recent failures
Social anxiety from being bullied or having critical parents can lead to insecurity.
Perfectionism not only can cause insecurity, but depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and chronic fatigue.
DEALING WITH INSECURITY
People who experience significant insecurities in daily life may attempt to overcome them by identifying the causes. For example, a man who dreads going to work because he feels he does not perform his daily tasks adequately may ask himself what led to that belief and attempt to identify ways in which he might become more positive and realistic about his own abilities (Fowler, C. J., Allen, J. G., Oldham, J. M., & Frueh, B. C. (2013).
What Does the Bible Say About Insecurity?
If we hope to get to the root of insecurity—which can be caused by attaching our self-worth and identity to the things of this world—then we first need to know the truth about our identity as a child of God. That way, our self-worth can be grounded in truth rather than in the enemy’s lies.
1 Corinthians 10:13 tells us that God will not allow us to “be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”
Immediately, it might be argued that any child is vulnerable to abuse because by their nature, a child’s age makes them more susceptible to being taken advantage of than most adults. However, there are some groups of children who, for various reasons, will be more likely to be abused than others.
It is important to keep in mind when referring to vulnerability to child abuse that a risk factor it just that – a risk only. Children may face one or more risk factors but this does not mean that it is inevitable that they will become a victim of abuse, as this is not the case at all.
What a risk factor does mean though is that a child who does have one or more of them should be closely monitored and, wherever possible, enabled and encouraged to speak up about their difficulties as enabling children to communicate more freely means that should an instance of abuse occur, they may be more confident to report what is happening to them.
Some of the risk factors that make children more susceptible to abuse include:
Has a parent who has substance or alcohol misuse issues
Isolation: children who are isolated, perhaps due to disability or mental health difficulties are more susceptible to abuse as they have less opportunity to report abuse.
Lives in a household where there is domestic abuse
Neglect is a form of child abuse but it appears that there are specific risk factors which increase a child’s likelihood of experiencing neglect, which include:
Lack of support
Living in a difficult environment- where there is deprivation and high rates of crime in the local area. It is known that children who live in deprived areas have a greater chance of abuse and of being subject to a child protection plan or being taken into care.
“'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. '” — Jeremiah 29:11
May 2022 – On the pregnancy test was this word ”pregnant” It was the most shocking, not expected, blessed day so far. From May to October I have experienced what it means to grow a baby inside you, new life given by God to us. At the beginning of my first trimester I felt sick and tired, and all the condiments from the cupboard had to be chucked aways, the smell was too strong for me. Today The second trimester was the best so far, it’s true that I became a foodie but I am proud to have self-control over it. I remember when I first felt my baby’s movement, such an amazing feeling that only a Mom can describe. We are thankful for a healthy, very active baby in my womb. As I just entered my last trimester, we are excited to meet our little munchkin in 2 months time.